According to the Vedas there are 7 types of relationships that we can experience in our lives. These 7 categories of relationships achieve a certain type of harmony between two people that correspond to our 7 chakra centres: your root centre, sacral chakra, solar plexus, heart centre, throat chakra, brow chakra (third eye centre), and crown chakra.
Your chakras are the energetic centres of your lightbody, your spiritual body. Each chakra controls different areas of your life, and when you can balance and cleanse your chakras, you begin to balance and cleanse your life simultaneously. The state of your chakras can influence many aspects of your life, including marriages and romantic relationships – which is the topic of today’s blog post.
According to the Vedas, the chakra that is most active in your relationship determines your ambitions and goals within your relationship. So if your relationship is based from your root chakra, your understanding of family happiness in your marriage will be under the influence of the powers governed by your root chakra. The lower chakras (Root, sacral and solar plexus) tend to bring more opportunities for unhappiness, whereas the higher centres (Heart, throat, brow and crown) yield more opportunities for happiness. We can work our way through the chakra centres and achieve higher levels. When we can activate higher centres, the lower ones open beautifully and by themselves too.
This article is regarding these 7 energy centres, and the kinds of relationships that tend to emerge from these influences.
The Root Chakra Couple~
The root chakra is connected to our primal instincts. It is greatly influenced by our sexual energy. I call it our ‘survival instinct chakra’ – because it’s sexual energy motivates us to have children and continue our lineage and because it motivates us to stay alive, and can keep us away from physical danger. The root chakra is also connected with selfishness and ego – two factors that are of utmost important to those who are motivated to survive. We use our selfishness to protect our needs, and we use our ego to protect our emotions.
The goal of the root chakra couple:
The root chakra couple are motivated by their enjoyment of each other.
Where does the couple meet?
They usually meet in night clubs, bars, parties, or other places of entertainment. Of course there are relationships under the influence of higher chakras that may also meet at these locations, merely by happenstance, but the key differentiation here is that, there couples tend to go to these places IN ORDER TO FIND their future husband/wife. The women are usually attracted to how attractive or cool the man looks.
An overview of their relationship:
Root chakra couples are ruled by the planet mars, and tend to have an intense honeymoon period, and aspects of this can feel a lot like love to them. Of course with time, the honey-moon period gradually fades, and then they are usually left with bitterness and disappointment. Aspects of the honeymoon period can feel a lot like love to them. The relationship tends to be very up and down, never quite finding the right balance. They experience dizzying highs and deep lows. Their relationship becomes riddled with contradictions like “I love you, I don’t love you anymore”, “Do this for me, and I will love you”, “I love you but I will also cheat on you”, “I love you, but might leave you”, “I am leaving you and you must come after me.” They become trapped within themselves. They either want to rush into marriage very quickly, or delay it completely and indefinitely. If they do get married, it’s usually because of a very strong emotional dependence on each other, and not love. They just want to be together.
The sacral chakra couple~
The Sacral chakra is the spiritual energy centre connected to happiness, confidence and resourcefulness. It is also linked to the negative shades of greed, fear and self preservation. A couple that makes a connection through their sacral chakra, create a love that is based on a mutual desire for comfort and wealth. This chakra is influenced by the planet Venus. When this couple come together they first harmonise on the sacral level, and over time the root chakra may open up as well. This will result in the pleasures and also challenges of The Root Chakra couple also coming to play in the dynamic of their relationship. Their Sacral couple’s mutual desire for wealth and comfort appears to be more stable than the Root Chakra couple, but the Sacral chakra is still considered one of the lower energy centres – and so, it will continue to bring more opportunities for unhappiness, than it does for happiness.
Of course, it is not wrong to desire a comfortable life, or to want to have a beautiful and cosy home. The troubles arise when the couples make attaining this material success the main goal of their relationship – and that’s what the sacral couple tend to do.
The goal of the sacral chakra couple:
To have a comfortable life. To own cosy house, beautiful furniture, flashy cars etc. To create their own cosy, comfortable and wealthy home together.
Where does this couple meet?
Expensive restaurants, beautiful resorts, elite dinner parties, work events.
The solar plexus couple~
The solar plexus is the power centre of our energy chakras located in our light body. The solar plexus is connected to our ambitions and goals. Material pleasures in life can be further divided into two forms: the heavy and the subtle. The heavy worldly material pleasures are things like beautiful things – houses, cars, objects. This is what the Sacral Chakra Couple aspires too. One step higher than this is the subtle form of worldly material pleasures – which is the search for fame, prestige, and power. This is what the Solar Plexus Couple aspires to. They want to get married for power and prestige. Many famous people have relationships based on the solar plexus centre. This centre is influenced by the sun, which has a masculine nature and encourages people under its influence to find their place in society.
In order to achieve harmony on this level, the couple has to work very hard on themselves in order to overcome their high expectations of the future. They must cultivate unselfishness and submissiveness in order to access the ability of changing their character. Without that, they will never be able to change who they are. When a person meets another with a similar desire, they create a family together. They work very hard together to attain their goals. If they remain focused, then eventually they will achieve the power and fame that they wished for. When they achieve this “honour” and prestige, the conflicts within their personal life will begin. The husband begins to feel more and more proud of what he has achieved in life. The wife, on the other hand, begins to feel more and more that without her – none of this would have even been possible in the first place. This begins to cause underlying resentment in the family.
The goal of the solar plexus couple:
Power, prestige and fame. To be respected in society.
Where does this couple meet:
Special invitation parties, elite societies and meetings, sports clubs, political events etc.
The solar plexus motivation:
People who want to create a family in order to achieve fame and prestige, usually exercise and practice their self control from a young age. They have a competitive nature. They may participate in sports or study how to concentrate better. They do what they can to be better than the ones around them. It comes very naturally to them. They naturally want to be leaders of their friends. They are interested in things like management, but they usually tend to be a little bit arrogant by nature and quickly categorise the people they meet in relation to them.
As you can see, people under the influence of the solar plexus do engage in self-development – but they focus on the darker aspect of it. In their search for fame and prestige, they lose the ability to cultivate humility. While they work on themselves to become superior to those around them, they simply learn how to control others and increase their pride. When a person becomes more and more powerful, their pride, intolerance, and anger also grow. So while they are engaging in some sort of self development through self control, they use it for lower level motivations.
The fate of the solar plexus couple:
The best thing for them to do as a couple would be to stop interfering in each other lives and instead focus on making themselves better people – but their ambitions and drive for success and perfection won’t let them do that. They look to their partners to help them achieve their fame and success, and when it doesn’t happen as seamlessly as they want, they turn their attention onto changing their partner. However, they won’t be able to do that either, and they will start getting frustrated. They can’t change people by simply preaching to someone all the time. They can’t change their partner by yelling at them. Nothing changes. So as time goes by, they begin to feel like they are just living with strangers. They start getting disappointed by everything. Only their mutual interest in maintaining outward appearances and their outward social status holds their relationship together.
The only way for the solar plexus couple to change their fate is by changing their beliefs about life – to understand that there are more important things to wish for than fame.
They must set their sights on spiritual goals rather than material goals – otherwise they will find that they will always be disappointed in their life.
The heart-centred couple~
The Heart Centred Couple is the first chakra under the higher level energy centres – and therefore, is the first chakra to yield a “favourable relationship”. Thus, this couple will have more opportunities for happiness than opportunities for unhappiness. They usually have lasting marriages. These favourable relationships give both people the chance to cleanse their consciousness, to work through their karma, and to fulfill their dharma.
This type of couple are very interested in working on their character and self development. They wish happiness to those around them. They tend to be involved in charity, volunteering and in someway assisting their community. They respect their elders and listen to their advice. They generally do not go through problems regarding understanding one another in their married life. Their problems generally arise through fate, and the obstacles that life brings their way. But they understand each other well and have a desire to make their partner happy. These marriages tend to be very stable, and the couple are blessed with lots of friends, and wealth comes easily and naturally to them – although they never feel the need to depend on that either. If they have given wealth, they use it for universal goodness and happiness. And if they are not given wealth, they do not curse the universe for it either.
The goal of the heart centred couple:
Following moral principles together and uphold values in their family that provide peace and happiness.
This is a love that is based on the desire to bring happiness and peace to others, including their partners.
Where did this couple meet:
Places where they are around people pursuing similar interests – for example yoga classes, meditation centres etc. They tend to meet at communities that are striving for happiness.
The heart centred couples motivation:
People guided by their heart centre feel inclined to fill their hearts with optimism and joy. They wish well-being and goodness to those around them, and are naturally involved in helping people of the community through community service. They feel a duty to volunteer. They are raised to be generous people. They understand the importance of honesty and are usually respected and liked by people.
They are interested in choosing a good partner for themselves, and take the time to learn about relationships and prepare themselves for their commitments. The heart chakra centre is under the influence of the moon, which brings peace. They do not want to bring harm to others, including to their partners. They want to make sure everything around them is in harmony and balance.
They are hard-working and responsible, and spend their free time on activities that enhance their character and make them into better people. Heart centred women are calm women. They dress modestly and have respect for all people around them, specially their elders.
The heart chakra couple tend to ask people for advice when choosing their husband/wife.
The children of heart-centred parents listen to them. They tend to ask their parents for advice about life. They are also willing to listen to them. This is not found easily on the lower centres, because the lower centres do not allow the parents to cultivate humility. Without cultivating humility a parent cannot make the child listen to them, or to be completely open and trusting to their suggestions and advices.
This is not to say that children will never listen to parents from lower chakra centre relationships. However, these children are more likely to follow their parents behaviours and learn from them and do as they do. They won’t care much to listen to what their parents have to say about it. However, if you want to be able to influence your children with your words, then you must have harmony on a higher chakra level.
The challenges of the heart-centred couple:
The heart centred couple does not usually encounter big problems in understanding each other, because they both hold the principle belief that they should bring joy to their partner, and not pain. So they try to avoid causing hurt to each other. By doing this, they naturally focus on understanding each other better too. Their marriage is usually stable and strong and have many good friends. Friends of the family wish them well and wish them happiness.
Of course, they are not immune to challenges and will face problems in areas of life as most people do, but the key thing about the heart centred couple is that overcoming these struggles strengthens their relationships, deepens their love and thickens their respect for one another.
Their main challenge will come in simply deepening their understanding of life and spiritual practice and cultivating an even more serious attitude towards perfecting themselves.
Another key challenge for the heart centered couple is that by behaving the way they do, they tend to naturally attract material wealth quickly, which encourages them to relax. There is the danger of arrogance and the increased desire to spend more money, which of course, leads to problems both inside and outside the relationship. They also begin to attract lots of friends and people who like to spend time with the couple. These friends spend a lot of time in the couples home because they have such a great energy there. The problem with this is that it encourages the couple to engage in idle talk, to discuss unimportant, unfavourable and unnecessary things all the time.
However, as time passes, as fate would have it, heart centred people generally tire of material wealth, get bored of it and naturally retreat away from it.
The throat chakra couple~
Those motivated by the throat chakra (the ruling planet – mercury) are inclined to perfect their senses. They want to tune in their senses into the ethereal world. They practice meditation to have a higher level of senses. So that they can hear, feel, see, know and understand their messages from the universe. They wish happiness to everyone they think about.
It is also important for throat centred couples to cultivate self control and honesty. They do not let their earthly emotions control their experience of life – instead they act from a higher place. By controlling their emotions and not acting on every egotistic and emotional impulse, they train themselves to access a greater and more profound understanding and connection with the truth. They act from here. They are very good at controlling their ego and their emotions. They do not waste time in unfavourable conversations, and they do not engage in self flattery or showing off. They are very humble people. They are determined in achieving their goal of refining their senses and controlling their emotions and ego. They like to spend time amongst highly spiritual thinkers and leaders. It is only at the throat level that a person can become a successful spiritual guru or leader to others. This is because – it is only at this level that a person has successfully purified their consciousness to an extent that they would not be passing on their own bad karma to their students. At this level, they would be practicing what they preach all the time. At this level they would begin to experience true psychic knowledge.
The throat chakra couple are a rare couple to come across. They tend to be very talented people. They tend to “feel” the world with their senses rather than live through it. Because of this deeply intuitive approach to the world, they live in deep harmony with their world. They tend to be naturally poetic with their words. They understand the power of sound and the power of words, so they choose them carefully and beautifully. Because they develop their senses so much, and try to tune it into the subtle nature of the universe and it’s energetic voice, they also simultaneously develop their taste in the arts. They have a well refined musical, artistic and poetic taste. They are able to perceive beauty and delicacy in everyday things. They know what matter that is perceived by their senses is good for their soul. These people tend to have a very mystical and magical marriage together. They understand each other deeply and completely. They can always relate to each other and feel deep empathy towards one another. They feel each other, even from far away distances. They communicate with their thoughts and feelings rather than words; if one thinks of something, the other one has a sense of it already. Their marriage will last many lives, and they have certainly been together in previous lives too. They both have very good karma that they will work through together. Often their connection is so strong that they will always find each other in whichever life they are in. Sometimes they can even find each other at very big distances apart. Sometimes a man will move to another country just to pick up his soulmate. They know from the first glance of each other that they were meant to be together and to find happiness together.
The throat centred couple are able to give birth to very talented children. Their children will also practice self realisation, self development and self perfection.
The third-eye chakra couple~
Those under the influence of their third-eye or brow chakra, are ruled by the planet Saturn. These are people who have been practicing self realisation for many lives. The couple come together to practice self perfection together. They have a very deep psychic harmony that allows them to completely give their lives to each other. They are committed to studying the highest truth of the universe. They want to experience God. This relationship is very rare. These people are usually spiritual teachers. They live simply for other people and not for themselves. When a couple has harmony on this level they only want to make other people happy. Sometimes this couple abstain from sexual relations with each other. They simply live together to help each other on their spiritual path.
The crown chakra couple~
Those activated at the crown chakra, ruled by the planet Jupiter, create an unearthly and mystical love. They abstain completely from sex. The woman thinks of her husband as her teacher, her guru, and she trusts him completely. She is always loyal to him. Her husband behaves as a saint would. After they die, they go into the spiritual world, where they can be together forever. They have completed their work.
This is a very high level type of love.~
art: Alex Grey