One thing I do know about intimacy is that there are certain natural laws which govern the sexual experience of two people, and that these laws cannot be budged any more than gravity can be negotiated with. To feel physically comfortable with someone else’s body is not a decision you can make. It has very little to do with how two people think or act or talk or even look. The mysterious magnet is either there, buried somewhere deep behind the sternum, or it is not. When it isn’t there you can no more force it to exist than a surgeon can force a patient’s body to accept a kidney from the wrong donor.
To be perfectly matched, genetically engineered belly-to-belly, where no parts of our bodies are in any way allergic to any parts of the other’s body. Nothing is dangerous, nothing is difficult, nothing is refused. Everything in our sensual universe is – simply and thoroughly – complemented,…and also complimented.~from ‘Eat Pray Love’ by Elizabeth Gilbert