So You’ve Found an Evolved Man~~

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So You’ve Found an Evolved Man~~
For eight years I’ve been calling in a life partner…

Why did it take me so long? Because I was searching for the elusive “evolved man” – a mythical creature that exists in the dreamy minds of Goddess-type women who preach atop sparkly pedestals claiming they are not “being met” by the men they are currently dating.

I desired a partner who is remarkable, like me. And I would not settle for less until I found “him”… a man who is dedicated to a path of personal evolution, has a high vision of the life he wishes to live, and lives into it every day.

Yeah right, like I am perfect and evolved!

But I AM capable and willing to do “the work” to be a better human, so I figured my mate should be the same way.

What the heck is an “evolved man”, anyways?

1. A man who has conquered his own emotional, spiritual and personal growth work and takes responsibility for his life.

2. A man who is true to his word, takes action and lives with integrity.

3. A man who loves himself so much that he cares for his body, his health, his finances, his home and keeps all aspects of his life in tip top shape.

4. A man who has mastered the fine skills of energetic lovemaking, meditation, yoga, ecstatic dance and can give me orgasms with one glance of his eyes.

5. A man who has “done the work” to be a better person and has his diplomas from The Good Men Project, Landmark, Tony Robbins, and Deepak Chopra on the wall to prove it.

Well guess what, ladies. Once you find a man like this, you better be scared shitless. Here’s why:

1. No matter how many Ester-Hicks affirmations you have posted on your bathroom mirror, in the presence of a remarkable evolved man ALL your emotional, spiritual and personal baggage will climb out from the dark corners of your mind. There is no space in this relationship for you to fall back on old stories of how you were once done wrong by an “un-evolved man” in the past. Be prepared for your personal shit to be stirred and smeared on your holy mirror and accept that only YOU are responsible for how you will respond to your “triggers”. He will hold you accountable and will not settle for your emotional, self-righteous rants.

2. It’s easy to make a list of all the ways YOU think you are impeccable with your word, but an evolved man will hold a mirror to your soul and reveal all your blind spots. If he says he will pick you up at 8pm, he will show up on time – while you are still in the bathroom sticking just a few more sparkle bindis on your forehead, which means YOU are late. You complain that your car needs an oil change and post on Facebook that you are “manifesting a mechanic who will trade for crystals”, while he is already under the hood getting it done. You have a dusty vision board on your wall with photos of dreams you wish to achieve, while he is busy making shit happen. Time to step it up!

3. Sure, I generally eat healthy (with a daily side of wine and cheese) and somehow get my rent paid at the end of each month, but am I really living up to my fullest potential? I desired a man who is stable and wealthy, in tip top shape, cooks gourmet farmers market organic meals every night and lives in my future dream home that I would eventually move into and make our own… while I was frankly broke, flabby, living in a ghetto apartment and eating In-n-Out Burgers on Wednesday nights in front of the TV. When you meet your dream man, prepare to start scrambling to clean up your life!

4. My previous boyfriend didn’t know a lick of yoga, thought chakras were bullshit, and spent his days stalking hippies on the internet to prove their motivational message memes were wrong. This left me doing my Tantra yoga poses and prayer circles on my own, and we eventually broke up because he wasn’t “spiritual enough”. Then enters Mr. Evolved Man who gets up at the crack of dawn every single fucking morning to meditate, hits Bikram three times a week, and can run circles around you doing handstands while you are still sipping on your Starbucks after your once a month ecstatic dance class. Wiping the dust out of your eyes, you begrudgingly buy that unlimited monthly pass card for the yoga studio down the street so you can keep up with him.

5. You boast that you were a keynote speaker at Lightning in a Bottle last year at the Yoga Dome. You don’t need any more self-help diplomas, YOU are the expert now! In the meantime HE is a student of life, always learning, always growing, always seeking new inspiration and perspective from his mentors because he knows that NOT KNOWING is a place of power. He accepts that he is a work in progress and loves you just the way you are… then signs you up for a year of Landmark education that kicks your spiritual ass to the ground.

Yes, you may think you have the upper hand as a Goddess-type woman who is already “evolved”, because a lot of “dudes” out there still don’t get it. But until you accept that you have tons to learn from someone else and that their life accomplishments are amazingly different than your own, you will never be met.

There is no such thing as an “evolved man”!

Look instead for someone who is in the process of “evolv-ING” – and when you find him take his hand that is reaching for yours, step off your damn pedestal and climb up the steep road of life together as partners who can support one another along the way.

And if you are not scared shitless, you are doing it wrong.~

~Scarlet Armor

http://www.scarletamor.com/evolved-man/

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4 thoughts on “So You’ve Found an Evolved Man~~

  1. This is funny, As a spiritual man, i have ran into woman after woman that feels pressured to be great because I have standards of excellence. They claim they are ready for change but when they meet change (me), they become all the men they worked to avoid. I tell them their prayers have been answered and we have crossed pathes because they asked for me. “The evolved man”, show you who you truly are, the woman either run back to an ex, realizing they don’t want better, or they strive for better….but they realize I found the path I want to be on and will not walk elsewhere. Good informative piece, thanks for sharing.

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  2. Marielle Vinken

    ❤ ❤ ❤

    met vriendelijke groet,

    Marielle Vinken The Good Life by MV 0031-6-24604510 marielle@thegoodlifebymv.com vinkenmarielle@gmail.com

    2016-09-04 12:46 GMT+02:00 Sacred Dreams :

    > Robin posted: ” So You’ve Found an Evolved Man~~ For eight years I’ve been > calling in a life partner… Why did it take me so long? Because I was > searching for the elusive “evolved man” – a mythical creature that exists > in the dreamy minds of Goddess-type women who prea” >

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  3. I’ve seen this post widely circulated on Facebook. I think it has many good reminders. I also feel too many of us are looking for an “evolved mate”, thinking we have to be perfect, healed, spiritual, etc before we can find and create love.

    In some ways it’s true, but we also can create love right now where we are by loving and accepting ourselves as we are. I no longer want a perfect or evolved woman. I simply want a partner who is willing to love and let the relationship be a container for learning to love and accept more of ourselves and each other.

    blesssings, Brad

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