If You Choose an Awakened Woman~



If you choose to love an awakened woman, understand that you are entering into new, radical and challenging territory.

If you choose to love an awakened woman, you cannot stay asleep.

If you choose to love an awakened woman, every part of your Soul will be aroused, not just your sexual organs or even your heart.

Frankly, if you prefer a normal life, stick with a normal girl.

If you want a tame life, seek only a woman who has allowed herself to be tamed.

If you only want to dip your toe into the flowing waters of Shakti, stay with the safe, tamed woman who has not yet plunged into the wildness of the Sacred Feminine ocean.

It is comfortable to love a woman who has not yet activated her inner sacred powers, because she does not push your buttons.

She will not challenge you.

She will not press you into becoming your highest Self.

She will not awaken the forgotten and numbed-out parts of your Spirit that urge you to remember that there is more to your Life here than this.

She will not look into your weary eyes and send a lightning bolt of Truth through your body, jolting you awake and stirring long-lost desires for Soul Love within you.

A safe, unawakened woman will be wonderfully satisfying and soothing to your ego, heart, and body. She will walk quietly beside you and make you feel needed, responsible, like you are fulfilling your manly role.

If this is enough for you then accept it, love her with all your heart, remain faithful to her and thank her daily for the gift of her mild, unthreatening feminine presence in your life.

If this is not enough for you – if your heart, body and spirit is only craving the ‘other kind of woman’, the Wild One – then know that you are on the cusp of Soul-Shifting transformation.

Know that you are making a serious choice with karmic consequences.

If you choose to step into the aura and body of a woman whose spiritual fires are blazing, you are accepting that you need a certain level of danger and risk in order to grow.

Once you begin to love a woman of this nature, you must accept total responsibility for the life-changes that will then ensue.

Your life will not be sleepily comfortable all the time. Your life will not allow you to stay stuck in old ruts and stagnant routines. Your life will take on a radically-new flavour and scent. You will be ignited by the presence of the Wild Feminine, and it will begin to send electric shockwaves of spiritual Light through your entire chakra system, attuning you to the Call of the Divine.

Choosing to be sexually and romantically-intimate with an awakened woman takes masculine courage to walk fearlessly into the Unknown. But it will reap rewards beyond your mind’s comprehension.

She will take you into undiscovered worlds of mystery and magic.

She will lead you, mesmerised and half-drunk with love, into the wild forests of sensual ecstasy and wonder.

She will show you sacred skies so full and burning with stars that you will start to wonder if you are still living on the same planet that you were born on.

She will break and tear you open so that your fierce, passionate heart drives you half-mad with longing. You will want to consume and penetrate her on every level so that your Masculine Essence can consume and penetrate the world – illuminating the Universe with your devoted Love.

She will see you like you’ve never been seen before.

She will trust you.

She will appreciate you.

She will acknowledge your efforts to make her happy.

She will value everything good that you do, and everything good that you are.

She will not run from your darkness, because your darkness does not scare her.

She will embrace, kiss, caress and love you back to Life. She will speak words that your Soul understands. She will not punish you for your mistakes.

It is a monumental risk to love an awakened woman, because there is suddenly no place to hide. She sees everything, therefore she can love you with a depth and presence that your heart and body have yearned for so hard, so long, so fiercely…that you wonder whether you have actually been alive for all the time that she has been away.

Loving a woman like this is a choice you make to start living with your Soul on fire.

Your life will never be the same again once you’ve invited her energy in.

Take this risk on yourself, or step back, stay with the normal girl and accept a different, safer, more comfortable and somewhat calmer life.

Just make sure that if you choose the latter, you don’t spend the rest of your days with your eyes looking back over your shoulder, straining to see once again the hazy vision of Feminine Mystery that has now disappeared from view.

She has long gone..spiralling back up to the Stars, the distant Galaxies and the Heavens…from where She came.

~Sophie Bashford


Sexual Bliss~


Passionate and erotic sex is exhilarating, fascinating and can lead to a deeper bond between lovers.

Sexual bliss can ease the pressures of daily life. It is also a powerful way for couples to engage with one another to achieve intimate, powerful and deeply satisfying connection.

Sex is not just about the physical act; it’s also a highly emotional interaction that can keep love alive and relationships happy and healthy.

Here are a few ways we can enhance desire, intensify passion and elevate sexual energy:

1. Start foreplay hours before. Naughty text messaging, leaving notes around, seductive phone calls or flirting and teasing during the day can heighten tensions and lead to wild and passionate sex in the evening.

2. Put your head in the right place. And I don’t mean physically! Meditate for a few moments beforehand, clear the mind of clutter, let go of all thoughts and set an intention for an authentic, committed, present connection.

3. Synchronise breathing. Lie next to one another face to face. As one deeply inhales the other exhales so the same air is circulating through each other. This not only synchronises the rhythm between both partners for a higher physical connection; it also strengthens emotional engagement.

4. Focus only on kissing. Kissing is all too often traded in due to other parts of the body taking priority. Forget touching or even thinking about any other body parts until things become so heated that it is difficult to keep control.

5. Touch sensitive nerves. The inner thigh has one of the most explosive nerves in the body. Add a little pressure to it by touching, tracing or kissing it to tease and move upwards.

6. Masturbation. Reminding your body of how it likes to be touched will help to stay tuned with what feels good. It will also make it easier to explain to a partner what you desire. Try masturbating alone, or together, showing one another alternative ways to enhance pleasure.

7. Create a luxurious feel to the bedroom. Invest in sheets that are high quality and that feel smooth and sensual. Ensure pillows are plentiful as they can make great props and supports for the body during sex. Decorate your room in colours to create a seductive and passionate setting.

8. Dress and undress passionately. We can all take a little extra care when thinking about dressing and undressing in the bedroom. Choose sexy underwear that feels and looks good and that will add an edge of naughtiness to making love. Dress up in a role play outfit and head into fantasy land, or wear an outfit that flatters and enhances your shape. Take time undressing, or passionately unpeel clothes from one another. Keep your mind only on the other person, how they look, how they feel, how much thought is going into the seduction and allow it to add to the pleasure of the foreplay, paying attention to every detail.

9. Take dessert to bed. Any tasty, not too sticky treats will add pleasure to oral seduction. Drip or slowly smooth onto parts of the body then lick, suck or kiss it off.

10. Blindfold. As soon as we lose one sense, our other senses heighten to compensate. Placing a blindfold on one or even both partners ensures that other senses such as touch and smell are elevated. Smell is one of the most powerful aphrodisiacs so prepare to be fresh and clean, and add a touch of a favourite perfume or aftershave or light scented candles and incense.

11. Try something new. Keep sex exciting by regularly trying something new in the bedroom. Either by using props or toys such as handcuffs, a vibrator or blindfolds, or watch a soft porn movie together. Read sections of an erotic book to one another or have sex in places you normally wouldn’t. It won’t matter how subtle or drastic the change, just doing things a little differently will spice things up.

12. Talk dirty. It doesn’t even have to be dirty; just whispering to one another whilst making love can be enough to heighten the connection and desire. Talking through what feels good, what the bodies are craving and whether more or less pressure or movement is welcomed can be a huge turn on for couples. And of course, talking dirty can also add to the eroticism if desired.

13. Experiment with different lubricants. Each brand will have a slightly different texture to it and will give an added thrill to foreplay and sex. They are also available in so many different flavours that it’s very easy to find one that is highly enjoyable. Some people will enjoy a lot of lubricant, others may prefer very little. Talk openly about what feels good, smells good and tastes good.

14. Fantasise. Together, or alone—whatever works. Sharing fantasies can be highly erotic. Talking through and even acting out something that both partners feel comfortable with and turned on by is one way to ensure temperatures are raised to their highest levels.

15. Eye contact. Sustaining eye contact can be hugely erotic for both partners. At first the use of eye contact can make people feel uncomfortable, so it can be easier to start using it for short periods of time and gradually building it up. Using eye contact increases connection and helps the other person feel attractive. Engaging in eye contact during oral sex is also a huge turn on for many couples. If eye to eye contact is too intense, use mirrors to watch one another from a slight distance or just watch certain parts of the body and eye contact may begin to feel more natural.

16. Delay pleasure. Raise the vibrations high, almost to orgasm, then slow right back down. If this is repeated a few times before eventually reaching orgasm, it can lead to a far more powerful and pleasurable climax.

17. Eat the right foods. Sharing a meal together is intimate in itself; however, sharing the right food together can lead to increased desire and more pleasurable sex. Foods such as chocolate, bananas, oysters, chilli peppers, pomegranates, oatmeal, garlic, ginger and honey can all boost sex hormones.

18. New positions. Often the same few positions are repeated again and again. A little research on the Internet or reading from a book on techniques can add inspiration. Or, using the imagination and a bit of trial and error can be a more fun and adventurous way to explore one another. Don’t be afraid: if one position isn’t working for both partners, just move back to something more enjoyable. If new positions aren’t working, try new places to have sex.

19. Take time. Completely forget about the destination and enjoy only the journey. Focus on what feels good in each moment. Keep the mind present and notice each touch, movement, breath and feel how much pressure is being used with each body part. Pay particular attention to how the bodies feel, pressed together naked and filled with desire. Listen to everything that the other body is saying, how it moves, what is pleasurable, when to slow down and when to speed up. Keep nudging your mind back to the present. Take away all pressure of orgasm, leaving only responsibility to enjoy each other fully, completely naked, intimately connected and entirely engaged.

20. Confidence. One of the sexiest things we can do for a passionate sex life is to build confidence. And the good thing about it is it can happen immediately. If it helps, adjust the lighting to a low setting or use candles. Play music in the background choosing beats with a slow and deep rhythm. Then try a few mantras and repeat them with conviction: ‘I am gorgeous/beautiful/handsome’; ‘I am desirable’; ‘I am passionate’; ‘I love my body and enjoy how it feels’; ‘I am seductive.’ Find what works and repeat it until negative thoughts diminish. Any time low confidence re-appears, drown it out with positive mantras until they sink in.

When we’re engaged not only physically but also emotionally during sex, we reach our highest potential for pleasure.

Recognizing that sex is an act involving our entire mind, body and soul ups our capacity to achieve a tantric experience with a mind-blowing expression.~~

~Alex Sandra Myles


The Energetic Match~


The Energetic Match between Two people in Relationships~

This match occurs in the Heart Chakra and essentially means that the two energy bodies vibrate at the same rate. When you are an energetic match with someone you feel a sense of familiarity when you meet them. For example, when you meet someone for the first time but feel as though you have met before, this is an indication of an energetic match. This familiarity turns into attraction, reminding you over and over that your energy bodies vibrate at the same rate. It is a magnetic feeling, drawing you closer and closer to the other person.

Our energetic vibration is not fixed. As we learn and grow so does our vibration. Sometimes two people who started out as a match in the beginning of their relationship will grow in different directions. Over time their vibration will grow further and further apart. This can cause an end to the relationship or it can cause a crisis in the relationship where the two people choose to come back together. This can occur over and over again. Vibration is not the only factor in the success of a relationship, but it is an indicator of the health of a relationship.

When you are an energetic match with your partner you work together as a team, your energy blending together into one united front. The farther apart your vibrations become the more you will fight against one another. If your relationship is struggling, reach out from your heart to your partner’s heart and see what you feel. Does the energy flow together, or does it push back like magnets pointed the wrong way? You can repair energetic discord and return to a match with some work and intention.

Physical closeness is key to maintaining an energetic match. Daily physical contact is very important. Remember to hug and kiss and hold hands. This causes entrainment (or alignment) in the Heart Chakra.

Be intentionally supportive of the other person’s choices and opinions. Pay attention to patterns of behaviour in yourself. Do you tend to disagree most of the time with your partner? Has this become a habit that you perpetuate without thinking? Consciously choose your responses, aligning yourself with them.

Choose a project, cause, or job to do together. Be intentional about uniting as one to complete something together. As you work side by side your energy will begin to match up, repairing the discord.

Spend time with couples who have healthy energetic matches. When it comes to energy, “like attracts like.” Give yourself good examples of how you want your relationship to be.

Remember that in some cases the discord cannot be repaired and it is better for both of you to move on. This is a healthy move for both people and creates a sense of freedom and relief. It is ok to feel good about leaving a relationship that is no longer an energetic match for you.

~ Kristi Brower